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Wednesday, December 28, 2005

Book Review

Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland

I know, and have known, quite a few people with Borderline Personality Disorder. If you don’t know what it is, you probably think it’s one of the worst kind of crazies there is, because the name sounds really bad. But, the fact is, it’s a very common disorder. Most of the people who have it are moderately functional but just very fearful about their relationships with people.

It’s taken me a long time to feel compassion for people with BPD, because they can come up with eleventy-million reasons why they’re special cases and what works for other people won’t work for them. In short – they are experts at snatching defeat from the jaws of victory, and at driving the people around them to throw up their hands and walk out. It’s fear that makes them such thorny rascals.

Rachel’s book helped me feel more compassion toward those who suffer from this vexing disorder . . . but Rachel is one in a million. She found a few threads of trust that she was able to weave into a dense carpet to support her healthy life. Most BPD sufferers are so fearful they can’t transcend themselves enough to do that. Still, I highly recommend this book as an inspiring example of one who did. And she’s a pretty good writer, in the bargain.


At 2:52 PM, Blogger bunnyjo georg said...

Wow....I'm so intrigued. My uncle married a woman with BPD. It is an ugly mental disorder that can disrupt and destroy the lives of anyone within striking range. In this case, she's nigh on destroyed three of their children's lives and working on the other two. I agree, it is incredibly hard to feel compassion for these people that dig holes for themselves then blame everyone else for pushing them in and not helping them out - when they jumped in themselves! Ugh. I believe the DSMV IV classified BPD as an untreatable disorder as it is deemed to be part of the fixed traits of a person's personality. Yikes. It would be enthralling to read this book and actually discover someone who overcame it.

At 3:01 PM, Blogger Chai-rista said...

You really nailed it with that description; "People that dig holes for themselves then blame everyone else for pushing them in and not helping them out - when they jumped in themselves!" Smack on the head, perfect summary.

They beat you away with both fists and feet and then curse you for "leaving them." It is an ugly, ugly disorder. And many MDs won't touch it because it "can't" be cured. It took Rachel three years of 3x weekly therapy to get well. Yikes, indeed.

At 12:19 PM, Blogger GG said...

I am stepping out on a limb to comment on this, but as a suffer of BPD, I really am interested in reading this book. I never knew that I was digging my grave until recently...

At 4:38 PM, Blogger Chai-rista said...

God bless you, GG! After reading this book I do belive it is possible to get better. It's a long road of hard, hard work, but you are worth every effort to wellness you can muster.


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